Absolutely! We’re great friends.
She’s been through a tough time and is getting out of that period. She’s battling back from breast cancer. She’s in remission of sorts, but has to keep taking oral chemotherapy for another few years. So, she got divorced. Got cancer. Ex-husband had fatal heart attack when her daughter was there and died in Lil Oddzy’s arms, while daughter was dealing with Oddzy’s cancer. Tough time for them. Actually, I was so desperately afraid for her and DM, I turned to CC for a while and prayed every night. There were months I’d send Oddzy a text every night or so checking in telling her she needn’t respond, just know I was thinking about and praying for her. Months later when she was a bit stronger, she said just knowing she was supported out in the ether was comforting and gave her hope.
She pulled out of it, helped her daughter cope with Dad’s loss, but it’s all turning out alright considering. . Lil Oddzy’s isn’t so little anymore. She’s just graduated HS, working as swimming instructor for summer, then off to college on a swim scholarship that covers her tuition and room/board almost 100%… I think of $40K or so, Oddzy only has to cover $2500. All her crazy days of waking at 4:30 am to go to swim practice, meets, etc paid off.
So, I asked her how she felt and she felt “done” and “grateful”. She felt an enormous sense of gratitude that her daughter is launched and is basically an adult. Says that the genetic make up of her cancer means she has a 1 in 4 chance of coming back as another type of cancer, colon, brain, etc. Shaping Lil Oddzy into adulthood is her goal in the event that she gets sick again.
But, she’s as funny as ever, almost always up beat. She’s a wonderful friend even if we’ve never met in person. I wanted to go to LA this past year, but cancer came up in my family. Maybe next Mardi Gras I can go.
I will tell her that you are thinking about her.